Hi and welcome! My name is Alyssa Herzig and I’m a professional coach, with a PhD in clinical psychology from Concordia University in Montreal, and 10 years of supervised experience offering psychotherapy and coaching in university, hospital and private settings. My mission and passion are to develop and share leading-edge knowledge and skills for guiding you to gently clear old pain, trauma, and patterns, and to accelerate you into peace, wellness and thriving.
My coaching approach is strongly grounded in mindfulness, experiencing the body (somatics) and acceptance with emphasis on identifying and meeting emotional needs. I integrate valuable theory and skill development tools from several frameworks such as Emotional-Focused Therapy (EFT), internal family systems (IFS), psychodynamic, Jungian psychology, transpersonal therapies, as well as eastern philosophies, such as tantric perspectives.
This is a safe space - I support LGBTQA+, ethical nonmonogamy, sex positivity, and spiritual, religious, as well as secular frameworks.
Why Emotional Coaching
In our society, many of us are not taught how to relate to emotions in healthy ways. Many of us are taught to fight our feelings and needs or to try to manage, suppress, and numb them. This tends to produce profound inner turmoil, as well as difficulties with negotiating how to have ours and others’ needs met in balanced ways in our relationships.
As an emotional coach, one of my major missions is to show clients, through embodied experience, how to process emotions and relate to inner experience in ways to better identify and meet their emotional needs. The outcome of this is relief, peace, grounding, and inner trust.
We need ways to regulate our nervous systems, meet our emotional needs and to feel heard, cared for, validated, soothed, calmed, safe, and grounded. This is particularly true when our needs aren't being met with others. One of my missions is to help you to understand and cultivate these skills.
Who are my clients and what do we work on
To date, I have worked with hundreds of clients and have provided approximately 6000 hours of psychotherapy and coaching sessions. I have substantial experience working with clients with a range of mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, trauma, adjustment disorders, and bipolar disorder. While working in hospital settings, I developed a specialization helping adults process and gently clear trauma, particularly the kind of trauma resulting from chronically unmet emotional needs in childhood.
Over the past two years, I have developed a particular interest and focus in guiding people in letting go of shame and self-criticism and in cultivating self-worth, self-love, and self-acceptance. I enjoy creating the safe and welcoming space for clients to explore their true selves. I deeply appreciate my work in guiding clients to identify and care for their most vulnerable or challenging parts, as well as their deep wounds, desires, needs, and challenging emotions. Through this integration process, they come to feel more empowered, grounded, and peaceful.
More recently, I have began working with clients to address challenges and goals in intimate relationships. In particular, this involves helping clients who are experiencing insecure attachments to better identify, honour, communicate, and meet their emotional needs and boundaries. This has involved working with clients to navigate ethical non-monogamy as well as to explore sexuality, in ways that feel safe and empowering.
In 2020, I received training in and began offering psychedelic integration sessions.
I have not described the full variety of goals I have worked towards with clients. I offer free consultations where we can discuss your difficulties and goals and identify if my approach will meet your needs. Looking forward to working together. :)
"I love that her sessions combine practical, actionable approaches to problem solving with mindfulness techniques and connecting with the inner self on a deeper, more complex level. I take something away from every session, whether it’s a breathing exercise, a new tactic for self-soothing or a concrete, reasonable to-do list. She is kind, non-judgemental, knowledgeable and empathetic... My experience with Alyssa has been incredibly rewarding and I’d recommend her services to anyone looking to connect with both their mind and body in a deeper, more meaningful way." Kelly H., Montreal
How do we work in the sessions
What we do in sessions is tailored to your unique difficulties and goals. Here are some of the processes that I tend to focus on during sessions together:
Connect deeply with your body and your emotions. Bring conscious awareness into the physical body to identify and align with your felt experience, inner self, inner integrity, inner wisdom, core values, meaning, purpose, wants, in order to feel like you’re thriving.
Learn to identify and meet chronically unmet emotional needs, such as needs for acceptance, love, safety, trust, and validation. Learn to self-soothe.
Acknowledge and shift out of old patterns and pain learned from trauma, conditioning, and socialization and to move into thriving, connection, and presence. Live mindfully, deliberately and with empowerment.
Release suppressed or stuck emotions, and process trauma.
Learn to address and resolve internal conflict (e.g., between conscious and subconscious wants and needs). Learn to find balance between conflicting needs.
Identify, create space for, express and accept your rejected inner parts. This is a self-integration process which establishes internal harmony, trust, peace, and love
Resolve interpersonal and relational difficulties and goals, such as difficulties in forming secure attachment bonds and developing and setting healthy boundaries.
Learn to deliberately shift states by selecting and embodying neurological and feeling states through a variety of visualization and meditation tools.
Book a Coaching Session
One-on-one sessions are available through video conferencing and by phone.
50-55 minute sessions - $150 + tax ($172)
80 minute sessions - $225 + tax ($259)
*Please note, sessions are unlikely to be covered by your insurance unless you have flex coverage for coaching.
To book a session or a free 10-15 minute consultation, complete this form or send me an email at the address below:
A note on licensing and titles
My title is ‘coach’, not ‘psychologist’ as I am not registered with an Order of Psychologists. This means that I am not licensed to diagnose or treat mental disorders. Instead, our focus is on imparting you with the understanding and skills to shift old patterns and behaviours, meet your emotional needs and goals, and cultivate inner harmony and peace.